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ETCHED IN SAND
Regina Calcaterra’s memoir, Etched in Sand, published by HarperCollins, William Morrow is an inspiring and triumphant coming-of-age story of tenacity and triumph.
Regina Calcaterra is a partner in the New York law firm Wolf Haldenstein Adler Freeman & Herz LLP practicing securities litigation and federal civil rights. Her painful early life, however, was quite different. Regina and her four siblings persevered an abusive and painful childhood only to find themselves faced with the challenges of the foster-care system and intermittent homelessness in the shadows of Manhattan and the Hamptons.
A gut wrenching and gripping story, Etched in Sand chronicles Regina’s rising above her past, while fighting to keep her brother and three sisters together through it all.
Beautifully written, with heartbreaking honesty, Etched in Sand is an unforgettable reminder that regardless of social status, one can rise above their past if they have the desire and the determination to succeed.
A GLIMPSE INTO ETCHED IN SAND
The middle of five children, Regina, and her siblings, Cherie, Camille, Norman and Rosie were born to the same mentally ill mother but all different fathers. Their mothers mental illness, and fathers abandonment, contributed to the families instability. They would constantly move quickly shifting from houses and apartments to trailers, homeless shelters, cars and the streets. Regardless of where they lived, the older siblings would work to make each place they lived a home for the younger siblings.
As the older girls grew they began transitioning out of the unstable living situation and by the age of twelve, Regina was left with caring for her younger siblings. Through Regina’s experiences Etched in Sand chronicles how the siblings lived on the fringe of society as they struggled to survive. All the while avoiding the authorities by keeping a pact that it was better to stay together on their own then be separated and again placed at the hands of complete strangers.
After a brutal beating so severe it could not be hidden, a social worker made Regina, not yet fourteen, a promise: tell the truth for the first time about how they have been living in exchange for a guarantee that the system would protect them. But to do so, Regina would be breaking the pact. In a weakened moment she made a decision that she would forever regret.
Through Etched in Sand Regina shares the scrappy survival instincts, mishaps, adventures and unbreakable bonds of a group of voiceless parentless siblings.
Regina’s book is meant to inspire children who are impoverished, abandoned and neglected and show them that they can pull themselves up if they believe in themselves
ETCHED IN SAND THEMES
Etched in Sand takes the readers through Regina’s experiences in and out of foster care until she ages out at the age of twenty-one. It then moves through her adulthood while unfolding long held family secrets. Themes that are highlighted throughout include:
- Impact of kind acts on children in need
- Vital role of the public library system, public education and the public university system on impoverished children
- How educators can forever impact transient children
- Helping those in need so they can one day give back
- Role of goal setting
- Determination to succeed regardless of social status
- Child hunger, poverty, abuse & homelessness
- Ability of children to cope
- Sibling bonds
- Forever parenting older foster children
- Risk of homelessness for young adults aging out of foster care parentless
- Foster care system generally
- A child’s right to now their parentage
- Breaking the cycle of abuse and homelessness